Wednesday, April 16, 2008

That's the fact

Just little bit of grumble.

It's factual that ppl do see things on surface. If you're incapables or not an expert in your field, never mind. Make sure you know to act. Act as a capable staff and you'll still be rewarded. Of course, make sure your boss sees your act. That would also mean that you can be slack at work when your boss is not around.

This made me think of one fine line concluded for relationship as I was told earlier: No matter how best a girl fit to be wife, she fails if she doesn't know to act in the presence of elders.

I've been pained by the fact but what to do? That's life.

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

没有重点,只是沉重

这是一篇重360公斤的post.

他和她结婚13年。他们之间的问题在13年后浮上台面。

有一天在逛街的时候,她碰见了他。身边还有一个女人。他给两个人做了简单的介绍。她也大方的没有泼妇骂街,也没有质问。回家后,她问他到底要出轨几次。他说这次他是认真的。既然东窗事发,他索性光明正大不回家。甚至在白天把这个女人大方的带回家。他没有顾及到小孩的感受,天真的以为这一切对小孩没有多大影响。殊不知亲子关系已经走样。

这样的日子过了2个月。她反复的想,深知自己进退两难。可是她再也不能给她的丈夫多一丝的包容。这样的日子对她来说是精神折磨。所以她希望长辈可以为她做主。

在家庭会议,他说出了事情的经过。他一方面不想放弃这个家,却也不想放弃这个女人。可是,如果两者只能选一样,他会选择后者。他说,即使他之前有过其他的女人,那些都是逢场作戏,他没有认真。可是这次,他是认真的。。。 因为他需要的是这样的女人。一个旺夫,在事业上可以帮得上忙的女人。

这个女人出现了以后,他突然觉得运气变好,偏财运也超旺,事业蒸蒸日上。靠这女人的关系,他在中国也分到一杯羹。所以对这个中国女人疼爱有加。他不介意花钱在这个女人身上,因为他觉得那是值得的。只要和她在一起,花掉的钱一定可以双倍赚回来。这是他的观念。两个人去中国旅游加工干的时候,算命先生告诉他这女人可以旺他30年,现在的妻子和他却是刑克。算命先生的说法更加深了他对这女人的想法,也更加认定这女人的地位。他对她说,这些东西都不是她可以给他的。所以,他要这样走下去,即使他没有把握他会不会真的因为这女人成功。她只觉得他疯了。像被人蛊惑了一样。相信一个在芽笼卖的中国女人可以旺他30年,可以帮他赚很多钱。

他说他这些年来负担太重,而她在他最辛苦的时候并没有拿钱出来帮他。家里的费用也没有帮忙负担。听他这么一说,她觉得心灰意冷。女人得工作,得照顾孩子,得看好家等丈夫回来。如果自己赚来的钱没有拿给丈夫应酬交际,或者补贴家用就是对他没有帮助。这样的说法叫女人太沉重。

没有人支持他的做法。旁听者都觉得荒谬。显然大家对中国女人没什么好感。加上她是一个背景如此复杂的女人。用脚趾头想都知道这女人要的是什么。一个正经的女人不会破坏别人的家庭;一个有本事的女人不会去芽笼卖;一个聪明的女人知道要对谁下手。是他无知吗?还是身在迷雾中什么都看不清楚?脚踏实地的过日子不行吗?说这个女人旺夫就可以不顾一切的娶她吗? 有责任感点好吗?大人的事可能签一个字就解决了,但小孩呢?影响他们的用什么来衡量?

听到这样的一个故事,我愣了一下,不知道该说些什么。所谓的爱情没有天长地久,没有随着模式的改变而升华。反之,感情随时会因为一些外来因素而生异。夫妻若没有白头偕老不算夫妻。当爱情与面包相冲时,男人都选择面包。当然,也有女人可以为面包牺牲爱情。当然,世上不乏幸福美满的家庭,白头到老的夫妻。只是,现代人对婚姻的态度太过潇洒,潇洒得说结婚就结婚,所离婚就离婚。是我保守不时髦吗?我真的没办法认同。我始终认为婚姻是责任的问题。

题外话,人说女人好骗,我说男人更好骗。用美人计就够了。古代多少君王死在美人手上?吴王夫差就是一个。阴阳相克的命运,永远逃不过那纠结。

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Incredibly beautiful and touching

A gifted 5-year-old blind Korean pianist.

She will make you cry.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

It's not safe!

Many will agree that it's so much safer and comfortable no matter how late it is. I, also take this for granted.

On Saturday night, my housemate was robbed in the lift of my block. She was badly injured as she fought with the robber just because she didn't want to lose her bag. Bruises are everywhere, on her back, hand, arm, waist and foot. Reached the floor where we stay, the guy snatched her bag as she walked out from the lift. She shouted so loud and nobody was lending a hand.

Heard from the opposite auntie neighbour, Kim Tian has not been a safe place. Robbery happens quite often around this area. The robbers seem to know the place well as they know where to flee. Right next to our block is multi-storey car park where it's also connected to bus stop and another residential area. A very convenient spot.

I recalled the days where I used to work late and it's spine-chilling. I could be still walking along the street at 12 plus when I had all my personal belongings, including passport and 2 cellphones, as well as laptop in one bag, carried with no vigilance. That's because I have taken the safety in Singapore for granted. Fortunate enough, nothing bad happened in the past.

This also made me recalled my nearly robbed experience in lift when I was working at Menara Pelangi. If you're in doubt, don't step into the lift; Or, if you notice the person is suspicious only after you step into the lift, look into that person's eye and talk any rubbish to that person just to buy time. Because the moment you voice, you'll shock the person who's going to do something bad on you.

Safety is not granted. Safety is about self vigilance and self protection.

Friday, February 29, 2008

MSN - New way of spreading virus

Last time MSN virus was spreaded by file. Once the computer got affected, it will send a file to all the online contact of the infected user. But, it did come with some funny message whereby one would doubt the integrity of the message.

Now, the virus was spreaded through an url. Again, copies of message are sent, but without any message. Just like the normal way where you share a link with your friends, you copy and paste the link, maybe you don't bother to explain further what it is. Once you logon the website with your MSN ID and password, you'd probably get infected.

An example:
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i am qss or quek says:
http://www.rkntbp.info/

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Example only, DUN CLICK.

Do check back with the sender what the link is about. He/she would probably answer you: Huh? What?

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Devil in disguise?

This is quite creative....

旧情绵绵

How did the cyberworld work 13 years ago (that's when I started to addicted to cyberworld)? Can you recall?

10 years ago, we used to contact each other through email; for fun and hiao, we have ICQ and MIRC. Or, some web chatroom, for instances: http://www.alamak.com/. I wonder how many of us are still using these 3 mentioned channel nowadays? I don't, but they're still surviving in the cyberworld today.

Because HE told me that he met his net friend of 10 years plus ago for the first time, and pasted me his very first email which was in 1997, so I wonder if my emails with those precious net friends still sitting alright in my inbox. This Hotmail I know it will delete those old messages. To my disappointment, THEY'RE ALL GONE. So I went to check out mail account with Yahoo, the earliest email I could retrieve are those in 1999... As I read those email in the old days now, I do not know to describe what sort of feeling it is, too complicated. Some of those are quite touching, and yet amusing. To my surprise, it appears to me that friendships has been fading away over time, I don't realise it's actually be so close in the past. Or... Shall I put it this way, those friendships that I used to have in the past have been "upgraded" to another level? I'm going to paste some of the emails here... 原汁原味... haha... there we go...

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From: "wong yit chie"
To: fooqc@yahoo.com
Subject: everything seem alrite here
Date: Fri, 08 Jan 1999 01:58:03 PST

yap!! that day is tingting called u de..but we only called u at the noon, not nite oh ~ so...that call not ours. me now in jb lor, not intend to take any course now lah ~~ waiting for the entrance exam lor, wey, have u nong4 tuo3 yr form liao mah? 2 FEB ohh.. dun forget.

yr brother terence ah..tat day told me that he can't understand the mail u sent to him ah ~~ abt wat buy bks de..hehe.. u better mail him to tell him again lah .. he blur blur jiang

okok..me waiting for yr mail at home lah~~ hope it won't be lost.. when we know yr condition hoh, that zixin a little bit siao liao.. she said she wana go there accompany u woh !!! aiyoh !!!!! duno she can take care of herself or not but wana go there accompany u .. duno her lah, sometimes siao siao de (Note: I laughed out when I read this part... That's Cher we all know of)

dun tou1 tou1 use pc lah.. i say liao .. read read my mail then ok liao mah .. aiyoh..wat if kena caught then how har?? i dun have $$ bail u out from police station ler !! hahahahhaha

take care ah !!!! c u !
dun cry dun cry !! dun panick !! hahaha..
i know u can take care of yrself de lah ~
rite ???

bao zhong !

yiqi
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From: "wong yit chie"
To: fooqc@yahoo.com
Subject: GOT THE LETTER LIAO
Date: Mon, 11 Jan 1999 23:56:28 PST

oh yeah ~~ yr letter finally reached my home liao.. well...but no stamp there! ee.. must be lost on the way liao.. hai wo qi guai yi xia

*cut*

if u wana stay long in klang, u all can share to buy a bicyle, it's more convenient there, did u notice that the ppl in klang ride bicyle more then car one?? hehhee.. if u have bicyle , u can ride it to anywhere u like.. when u bored..ride it & go sia sia. (Note: Hahaha.... ride bicycle?? It might be factual in 1999 but it's funny to look aback now.)
ya! got a mu chuan there, how to say where is it ler.. hm.. have u shou2 xi1 the place around SIT har? if u shou2 xi1 liao, then i can tell u the location.. or else , pilipala yi da dui, u also duno where is it~~
that's good that u now have place to stay liao, but only 2 months~ have to find another one ah , n feel so happy that u can met those sc2 de frds, hope u all can he mu gong chu ~ hu xiang bang zhu ~ zhai wai kao peng you mah ~~ hehehe..

wey, i duno should write letter back to u or not, cos i think that email is faster mah ~ n hoh, now time didn't write liao, i'm afraid my handwriting become koyak liao..hehe..
peronte gone to melaka to work again liao.. a week there oh~~ he wana us bless him safe on the way ..hahha.. he complaint y u didn't mail him ah
~ actually he very concern abt u oh ~~ ACTUALLY ALL OF US CONCERN ABT U!!!!!!!!!!!!

*cut*

hey, we dun have yr phone no. lah !! n yr add there i will tell others de ! hehe.. but u coming down to JB liao, write to u, maybe u can't get it liao lor.. hehee.. so i prefer write mail mah ~~ fast & sharp & convenient & can exercise my typing speed again ..ahhaha

ok lah, u take care there lah
c u when u back on JB !!!
wana us go to larkin bus station to WELCOME U BACK OR NOT????
hahaha..
ok bye
yiqi
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From: "Ulyssess See"
To: fooqc@yahoo.com
Subject: Kill him lah
Date:Wed, 10 Feb 1999 18:13:42 PST

Ei , if u really don like your physics lecturer...then..try to make him furious and confused..since u are leaving soon@@@@@@@@@

ei , i haven bought my NEW YEAR SHIRT leh.......u buy liao mah? dunno Jiaroti buy lioa mah...i know he had bought sth from Spore ........u want to shop in Singapore??on...Friday or what...

PERONTE DE HIAONESS (Note: Because of the book from 吴庆康 <<发骚岁月>>, we "loved" to sign our nick as such: sth DE sth)
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From: "EngKiat Tan"
To: fooqc@yahoo.com
Subject: Guess who?
Date: Sun, 04 Apr 1999 20:53:30 PDT

Ah Bian:

Guess who? it's me......

What r u doing there? What r u doing now? The exam is over, ur "tuition" in Klang is over, everything is over just to wait for ur result, what r u doing there? Here, I'm still trying to look for something to do, any "lobang"?

Do u Know that the science 3 web site( http://jump.to/Sm3s3 ) is under construction right now? (Note: This website was later completed and launched... no longer valid now.. )

That's all. Just to say Hello! Send something to me, as to let me know that urs address is correct!

......Eric, urs friend
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From: "shizuka celine"
To: *Undisclosed*
Subject: Please open this!!!
Date: Tue, 27 Apr 1999 01:19:52 PDT

Dear ALL,
Okay...first of all...
I want to tell you ... i am JIAXIAN...
Maybe someone will called me Kitchi OR KIT...
Anyway...hope all of you still remember I am a humanbeing which know you all !!!
Actually...i face some probelms now...
it's already a long time ...
i haven't receive any email from my "friend" liao...
This make my life very difficult to pass...so...please ...mail me...by this add...
shixxxx_80@hotmail.com...
oohhh....you are you only one can save me from that Bo3 liao2 life...
save me....
SOS...SOS...SOS...SOS...
hahahahaha......
aiyo...
Thanks...all...
Regards Lunatic Jiaxian? Kitchi? Kit????

(Note: Would you still send an email like this? Hahaha... )
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From: "EngKiat Tan" To: fooqc@yahoo.com
Subject: PLEASE REST IN PEACE.....
Date: Thu, 13 May 1999 17:51:34 PDT

poor bian:

what a pity, anyway if I take photo I'll try to take for u lah
PLEASE REST IN PEACE...... (just a joke)
......Eric

>From: Foo qc
>To: EngKiat Tan
>Subject: Re: about arsenal...
>Date: Thu, 13 May 1999 06:16:58 -0700 (PDT)
>
>aiyoh eric...
>anyway, i cannot go already after asking my father..
>he doesn't let me go..
>wawawawa~~~~~~~
>eh if u going to take photo, take petit and overmars 1 4 me leh !

--- EngKiat Tan wrote:
>
> Bian:
>
> where have been ? Everyday I called, everyday u r not in. I have already buy the ticket since I can't connect u. Abba and I r going. My cousin is also going. When u see this mail, if u want to join us, u can go Nike shop to buy ticket. My ticket is $30 one, and was the yellow gate (the gate to go in the stadium). Angsana has one Nike shop but I don't know is it the same gate, because mine is from the Nike shop in Kota Raya. I'm going to Nilai on monday, and go to stadium on wednesday. I'll stay at my cousin's hostel(Jhia Jiun). U better hurry up because the ticket is very hot! If u wanna join me, please connect me. U can join me either going Nilai together with me or meeting at the big big stadium.
>
> ......Eric

(Note: Sorry Eric, I've left this matter behind... I only realised today we said to watch Arsenal game together last time. )
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Yiqi is ranked number 1. She always emailed me those long long email to cheer me up when I was alone in Klang; Eric's email surprised and touched my heart most. *hug**hug* Of cos there are some more but it's enough of sharing. Very tired already.. hehe..

Check out your old mails and let me know if I sent you guys any funny silly emails before. Hiak~